Learning how to survive in an abusive relationship with your own mother while taking care of two younger siblings is everything Matt is trying to do.
General Information:
- Age Range: 12 and up
- Price: $8.99
- Grade Level: 2 – 12
- Lexile Measure: 0660
- Paperback: 304 pages
- Publisher: Speak; Reprint edition (March 13, 2008)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 0142410713
- ISBN-13: 978-0142410714
Plot:
Rules of Survival is a story that is told through the eyes of an older teen boy named Matt in the prose of a letter being written for his youngest sister. He is telling her the story of their childhood and how he finally got himself, Emma (youngest sister) and Callie (other sister) away from their biological mother after repeated abuse and neglect on her behalf. The story explains everything Matt had to do and go through in trying to get himself and his siblings to safety. A lot of it revolves around a man named Murdoch who Matt and Callie saw defending a little boy at a supermarket when they were younger. Eventually they found this man and he ended up dating their mom for awhile until he realized there was something off about Nikki. Eventually with the help of Murdock, his Aunt Bobbie, and his biological father Ben, they managed to accomplish getting everyone away safely from Nikki who now is living out the rest of her life and keeping in touch with everyone through the random postcard which still blames Murdoch and Matt for everything that happened to her.
Reading and Interest Level:
This book is marketed for ages 15 and up and for grades 10th-12th though the writing style is not overly difficult and most of the controversial material is not graphically shown or described. This leads me to want to increase the age range in order to include all of high school as it is relatively tame for a controversial book.
Evaluation:
Rules of Survival by Nancy Werlin is an older YA novel, however it is still a valuable and effective piece of literature that has its place within a teen collection. It is a book about perseverance and overcoming any obstacles in order to better your situation and not resign yourself to your current fate. The teenage years are a time where many kids are unsure of themselves and sometimes get knocked down and are unable to right the ship. This book speaks to that situation and the realization that sometimes you must do anything to survive because as the main character says in the book: the survivor gets to tell the story.
“Surviving is something that can only be done for so long. Eventually you have to overcome your situation, however, sometimes that situation is your dangerous mother.”
- Scott Krinninger
Bibliotherapeutic Value:
The bibliotherapeutic value contained within Rules of Survival for teens comes from the overarching theme of the story which is enduring and overcoming. Life is not easy for teens or at the very least they perceive it to be not easy. People are trying to figure out who they are while still being socially accepted, juggling hormones, grades, getting into a good college, etc. Then you add on personal issues such as a broken family, and addiction, mental health issues, and teens start to drown in it all. Rules of Survival is an insight of no matter how down you are enduring and not accepting your station in life is the only way to overcome these issues. It can speak to those who are enduring something difficult or traumatic that they have trouble talking to another adult about, it can also speak to those who may be within a dangerous living situation. In the end this book has a lot of therapeutic value within it for a large variety of situations.
Issues Present:
The issues within this book range from physical abuse, to mental illness, to child neglect/abuse. Challenges against the book have also included the fact that it represents a broken household and is not appropriate for its targeted audience of teens. All of this leads to the rough situation that Matt and his two sisters Callie and Emma find themselves in during the telling of this story. Matt himself is physically assaulted by his own mother repeatedly, while the last time Emma sees her mom she was essentially force fed alcohol at a young age until she was sick.
Defending the Title:
The defense of this book is rather simple in nature. Nothing within the book is graphic or excessively violent, in fact most of the book was rather tame in comparisons to what my expectations were. All of the situations within the book are commonly dealt with by many teens and if you can’t relate in that way the overarching theme of perseverance and surviving the poor hand dealt to you is relatable by everyone. When I first read this book I was expecting something much worse or maybe an older book but to have this much outcry was somewhat a surprise to me to be honest.
Book Talk Idea:
For Rules of Survival, if I was to run a book discussion about it, I would likely focus on the interactions between Matt and Murdoch throughout the book. Matt realizes at the end that Murdoch was him as a child, however unlike Matt he had noone to turn to and get help from and he ended up killing his bad parent (who was his father). Luckily he showed up in time at the end of the story to save Matt from that similar fate. Pages to look at are: 1, 5, 32, 45, 47, 53, 94, 119, 133, 158, 202, 250
Genre:
The genre and subject matter of this book is Teen Fiction with the subject matter revolving around child abuse and social issues.
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Awards Won:
Arizona Young Reader’s Award Nominations 1998 (And Ongoing)
Nebraska Golden Sower Award Nominees Young Adult 2003-04 (And Ongoing)
Illinois Abraham Lincoln High School Book Award Nominees 2005 (And Ongoing)
New Mexico Battle Of The Books Children’s Book Award Nominees 2003-04
New Hampshire Isinglass Book Award Nominees 2013-14 (And Ongoing)
ALA Popular Paperbacks For Young Adults 1997 (And Ongoing)
Professional Reviews:
https://www.kirkusreviews.com/book-reviews/nancy-werlin/the-rules-of-survival/
http://www.yabookscentral.com › Books › Young Adult Fiction
Why did I choose to read this book?
I chose to read The Rules of Survival purely based off of its title and the back cover which has Matthew’s five rules of survival on it. The book ended up being nothing like I expected as I had not read a synopsis of it before picking it up so I was sort of picking it up purely on what I briefly saw on the book itself. It ended up being a good book though probably not something that I would regularly pick up out.